Are you in a safe place?
If you are a victim of violence, the first thing to consider is your own and your children's safety. Even if the abuser is in custody, he or she may be released on bond or in 48 hours. You may need to stay with a family member or friend. If that's not possible, or if it puts your loved ones in danger, please contact us. We may be able to find a shelter for you in another county. We can also refer you to organizations for counseling or legal assistance.
Do you have a safety plan?
Do you understand that you are not responsible for the violence?
Violence is a choice. The person using violence is the person who chose it. That person is responsible for the choice. No one deserves to be abused. You do not deserve to be hurt even if you argue, complain, or refuse to do something your partner wants you to do. It is not your fault even if you made a mistake. Nothing justifies abuse.